I suspect most parents have. It's just the worst feeling, isn't it? I figured out pretty quickly that if I stay in shame, then I stay in reactivity, and it's worse for everyone. So I've learned to forgive myself and let go of my shame pretty quickly so that I can come back into connection with my kids . . . but man, that still doesn't make those moments easy!!!
"i screamed at the screaming child
until I felt only shame"
been there.
woof.
I suspect most parents have. It's just the worst feeling, isn't it? I figured out pretty quickly that if I stay in shame, then I stay in reactivity, and it's worse for everyone. So I've learned to forgive myself and let go of my shame pretty quickly so that I can come back into connection with my kids . . . but man, that still doesn't make those moments easy!!!
(cant stop seeing these words).
That silence that settles in after the "until i felt" is deafening.